Want to Know if He’s the One? Travel Together
I often tell the story of how I fell in love with my husband on a dance floor. It’s a great story about how on our first date, he invited me out to a Spanish club.
And then taught me how to Salsa, Merengue, and move to Reggaeton music. Never in my life, had I met someone so confident on a dance floor. And it was magnetic. But if I’m being honest, it was more fascination and fun than true “love.” Love came a few months later, on a rugged trip through India. This trip was the ultimate relationship test.
We were still new in our relationship, only 3 months in. He had done some traveling, mainly to Germany to visit family, and had spent time on a Mexican resort, but nothing like India.
I wasn’t sure how he’d feel traveling in such an extreme manner but he jumped at the chance. Years later, he confided that at the time he didn’t know if our relationship would last, but would never forgive himself if he skipped out on a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
This trip, and the dozens that followed, allowed me to get to know him in a way that would not have been possible otherwise. So here’s my advice – want to know if he’s the one? Travel together.
Here are 4 ways traveling together is the ultimate relationship test.
Traveling together gives you insight into who someone really is. Especially in those moments that just sort of happen to you. That you can’t plan for. (aka “Real Life”) Lost baggage. A hostel adventure with a naked man. A delayed flight and a missed connection. When these things happen, as they inevitably do both on the road and in your life – does he react with humor and a shrug of his shoulder? A quick laugh and then some creative problem-solving? Or does a small bump in the road mean you are in for a full-fledged tantrum? Dark, brooding moods, and a ruined night?
On the other hand, how does she react when presented with a bit of serendipity? Will she stop to admire the breathtaking beauty of a sunset over the ocean and take it into her soul? Or will she remind you that you have reservations you made a month ago and no time to dawdle? When life gives us those unexpected moments – a favorite song playing in a restaurant where no one else is dancing, losing a job she already hates, a last minute invitation to spend time with friends – will she embrace the opportunity with open arms?
You’ll see each other at your very worst. Adventuring across the world together is exciting, but it also puts you outside of your comfort zone. Exhausted, sun-burnt, flea-bitten and with a raging case of “Delhi-belly” is far from being sexy. But if he loves you at your worst, then he deserves you at your best.
Travel allows you to confront the major points of marital incompatibility head on. Things like handling your finances while budgeting for a trip. Or dealing with the stress of being outside your comfort zone. And learning HOW and WHEN to compromise. If you can successfully navigate these situations on the road, you can be confident in your ability to do so in real life.
Through our travels, we got a glimpse of what our life would be like together. I can’t think of greater way to test your compatibility than by taking a big trip as a couple. So, you’re thinking they may be the one? Then before you buy that ring, make sure you buy a plane ticket.